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Joie de vivre

joy of living


Joy of living

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What brings you joy?


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OOTD | Pink Blush and Olive Green – California Casual

The weekends are made for relaxing and unwinding. 😎 At least that’s my motto.

A couple of weekends ago I got to spend a lovely Sunday with my cousin. We walked around downtown Disney, had lunch at Earl of Sandwhich, and spent some time people watching.

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My OOTD consisted of an olive green body suit and pink blush shorts.  Since it’s been so hot, I picked cotton materials to keep cool and comfy, and paired my outfit with a simple tassel choker and nude wedge slingbacks.

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No Keia La, No Keia Po, A Mau Loa

From this day, from this night, forever more

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Showing off my shorts

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My cousin kept it simple with a short chambray cotton dress and sandals.

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Hope you have a good weekend! 💕


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Motivation | Why it’s okay to rock your hair however you want it

A good friend of mine was making fun of me about my blog name, curlsxoxo. She said, “How can you have a blog named curls and not show your curls?” And she was right.  I rarely wear my hair naturally.  I’ve always had a difcult time embracing it. Mainly because the comments I get and stares (I’m assuming because of my hair). Naturally, my hair is volumonous. I’ve been known to make hairdressers sweat. Growing up in the 90’s, I was on trend.  Big volumonous curls lathered in gel and mouse for that wet look.  I thought I was soooo cool. 😎

I started straightening it as soon as I could afford my own straightener.  I was never really good with a roundbrush and blowdryer. That’s more for people with time and patience. Something that I’m consistently having to work on.  Then in the late 2000’s, the evolution of the Brazilian blowout became popular in Los Angeles.  It was definitely out of my price range, but luckily for me, I knew someone that would give me a friends and family discount.  And that’s how my brazilian blowout obsession started.  I no longer had to spend hundreds of dollars on hair gels, creams, milks, or serums.  My once tedious hair routine was no longer existent.  I had a new found confidence and an even sexier swag.  But why give all that power to my hair?  Who am I? Samson? Does all of my strength lie on my head?

No!  My hair is curly and crazy and voluminous… and I love it! ❤️ It doesn’t have to be straight to give me confidence.  My friend was completely right to make fun of me for the irony of my blog name.  I guess I never sat down to really think about it.  I still plan on styling my hair however I want, but I’ll be rocking the curls more often.

Do what makes you happy.  Natural is beautiful and confidence is even sexier. Remember that your strength doesn’t lie on your head.  It’s being comfortable in your own skin and paying attention to your mind and body that gives you your strength.  Do you boo and rock your hair however you want it!

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Hello, would you like some hair?

 


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FASHION | Sexy Summer Lace Inspiration

Hello Lovlies! ❤️ Yay, it’s officially summer!  Hope the heat has been good to you so far. I was having a discussion with a friend the other day on which season was our favorite. I obviously said summer and his response was winter. His argument: “When it’s cold, at least you can put layers on, but when it’s hot, there’s only so much clothes you can take off.” While that’s true, I disagree. I love the summer season for the fact that you get to wear less layers! Don’t get me wrong, I know you can’t be going out in your unmentionables, but it’s fun to show them off sometimes. I think side-boob is a thing right now, but I just can’t do it. So when I want to wear a top that is low-cut on the sides or backless, I usually opt for a lacy bra to give a pop of sexy.

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Lace is usually my material of choice. It’s feminine, elegant, and can be combined with anything.  And when a bit of lace pops out with the movement of your clothes, it can be ever so sexy.  So for the summertime, consider combining lacy pieces that are within the same color palate as your top.  Opt for pieces that are darker shades if you want to make it the highlight of your outfit or lighter shades if you want an elegant understatement.

Sexy Summer Lingerie Flat

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Highlighting the piece gives this outfit an edgier look.

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Rose lace design

Sexy Summer Lingerie Flat Lay Roses

Hopefully this flat lay inspires you!  Let me know what you think of this look and if you want to continue to see more posts like these.


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Motivation | Outgrowing friendships: It’s okay

I know this is silly, but I was reminiscing on a friendship past. Someone I used to consider a best friend. How just a couple of years ago we were going out, taking roadtrips, going on vacations, and now I don’t even recognize the person she’s become.  It was one of those give give give relationships. I gave my time, my emotional support, my presence, and she took.  That’s why I feel silly to be missing her friendship now. She would only really reach out when she had a problem, when she needed someone to talk to or hang out with. Like when she wanted to watch a movie but didn’t want to go alone or when she was having another one of her never ending problems with her crazy boyfriend and needed someone to talk to, I was just a phone call away.  Other than that, I never really heard from her.

The last straw was the weekend she cancelled on me for her on-again off-again crazy (ex)boyfriend.  Nothing new, sad to say.  She had invited me as her plus one to a mutual friend’s wedding during one of those off-again times.  I guess somewhere in-between they decided to be on-again, but she failed to tell me.  (Now looking back I realize she failed to tell me a lot of things.)  Then maybe a week before the wedding, when I brought up a dress I was looking to buy and the logistics of things, she told me her boyfriend was accompanying her in my place.  It definitely hurt to be uninvited to something, especially since these were plans made weeks in advance that I cleared my schedule for.  But what hurt the most was that she never told me until I brought it up to her.  As if she was thinking that as long as she avoided the situation it would just work itself out on its own.

What if I hadn’t brought anything up until the day before the event, was she not going to tell me anything until then? Was she planning to tell me in advance at all?  The message that this situation sent to me was that my time wasn’t to be valued.  That my time was not as important as hers.  If the shoe had been on the other foot, she would have thrown a fit.

I took a step back and didn’t say much to her in that moment.  I honestly couldn’t believe the person that was before me.  I realized though, that all those times I didn’t stand up for myself, I was silently saying it was okay for her to dismiss me.  After taking some time to think, I confronted her about the situation and told her how her actions made me feel.  She accused me of not being a good friend, of making her choose between our friendship and her boyfriend.  She never took accountability.

Ever since that day, I never looked at her in the same way.  I felt sorry for her for a really long period of time.  I guess I had always hoped she would change.  That she would leave the crazy boyfriend and live a happy life.  It wasn’t until I was outside of the friendship that I realized she was so negative, so critical and judgemental of everyone else, but so sensitive of anything directed at herself.

That day I exited the friendship. I realized that she didn’t want to grow with me, that we were just growing apart, and I would be okay.

I reminisced today on the good times we shared; the fun trips we did and the adventures we went on. I missed her…  I missed our friendship, or at least what I thought our friendship was.

I would be lying if I said I didn’t wish I could still call her my friend.  But then I remember why we grew apart, the reason we were no longer close. I guess we were never really that close to begin with.

It’s crazy to think how you can be so close to someone one day and then not even recognize them the next. I still see her from time to time.  She now has a new best friend.  A mutual acquaintance she used to speak so ill of.

I have no idea if she’s changed.  I’ve tried to speak with her and, while we’re cordial, I feel like she keeps me at a distance. Maybe it’s for the best.

I always say, with any relationship, you either grow together or grow apart. Why not grow together? Change is hard, no one will ever start to make a change until they want to. You can’t force someone to grow with you. You can only hope and wait. But how long should you wait? How long is too long? How can you be sure not to mix loyalty with a blind eye.

You want to believe in the good in people. That sometimes the people you’ve known the longest you think you know the best. And you talk yourself into staying in relationships because you hope that things will be different or that they’ll change.  But people won’t change until they want to; or until they find themselves in a situation in which they are forced to change.  When you find yourself outgrowing those friendships, exiting those relationships is probably for the best.

After I distanced myself from my former best friend, I found myself so much happier and lighter in spirit.  Her energy was almost draining at times when we were friends.  Every day brought a new problem, new criticism, or just drama.  Realizing that I had outgrown that friendship and finally standing up for myself gave me the courage to speak up more often.  I found myself establishing deeper and more meaningful connections with other friendships and new people.  I even made more friends!

Remember, as you grow as an individual, you will inevitably grow out of friendships. Just know that it is okay.


 

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