Motivation | Why it’s okay to rock your hair however you want it

A good friend of mine was making fun of me about my blog name, curlsxoxo. She said, “How can you have a blog named curls and not show your curls?” And she was right.  I rarely wear my hair naturally.  I’ve always had a difcult time embracing it. Mainly because the comments I get and stares (I’m assuming because of my hair). Naturally, my hair is volumonous. I’ve been known to make hairdressers sweat. Growing up in the 90’s, I was on trend.  Big volumonous curls lathered in gel and mouse for that wet look.  I thought I was soooo cool. 😎

I started straightening it as soon as I could afford my own straightener.  I was never really good with a roundbrush and blowdryer. That’s more for people with time and patience. Something that I’m consistently having to work on.  Then in the late 2000’s, the evolution of the Brazilian blowout became popular in Los Angeles.  It was definitely out of my price range, but luckily for me, I knew someone that would give me a friends and family discount.  And that’s how my brazilian blowout obsession started.  I no longer had to spend hundreds of dollars on hair gels, creams, milks, or serums.  My once tedious hair routine was no longer existent.  I had a new found confidence and an even sexier swag.  But why give all that power to my hair?  Who am I? Samson? Does all of my strength lie on my head?

No!  My hair is curly and crazy and voluminous… and I love it! ❤️ It doesn’t have to be straight to give me confidence.  My friend was completely right to make fun of me for the irony of my blog name.  I guess I never sat down to really think about it.  I still plan on styling my hair however I want, but I’ll be rocking the curls more often.

Do what makes you happy.  Natural is beautiful and confidence is even sexier. Remember that your strength doesn’t lie on your head.  It’s being comfortable in your own skin and paying attention to your mind and body that gives you your strength.  Do you boo and rock your hair however you want it!

Big hair

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Motivation | Why it’s okay to not give a ‘flying duck’ (insert expletive)

Some people just LOVE drama.  You know what I mean?  It’s like they live for it.  They try to control so much of their life, that they even attempt to control the chaos around them.  They create the drama, because they want to have something to blame.  A reason for why their life isn’t going the way that they hoped it would go, and they want to bring you down with them.

I tend to think of it as organized chaos.  It’s like adding gasoline to a fire in measured amounts.  The fire is going to ensue, but they’re the ones in control of where and how big the fire will burn.  Then they just sit back and watch crying, “Woe is me!” but they don’t do anything about it.  Sometimes, maybe they’re not even the cause of the fire, but they certainly don’t do anything to help.

Why do people do this?  Why?  Why? Why?  I just don’t get it.  I don’t care to get it, to be quite honest.  It’s ridiculous to some extent how much effort people put into making a big deal or making a situation more difficult than it has to be.

I know you know someone like this.  It’s not worth your time or energy.  These people may seem really fun and interesting for a minute, but that’s all there is, just a minute of calm in an ocean of chaos.

People do this because there’s something wrong in their lives.  There’s something that they are unhappy about and they lash out in other areas and at people in an attempt to feel some control over their lives.  Unfortunately, for those of us around them, we turn into their collateral damage.

And you know what?  In those situations it is OKAY to give zero f*#k$.  Actually, it is more than okay.  It is okay because it helps you to preserve your sanity.  Your mental health is more important than someone else’s negativity.  Don’t let other people drag you down.  You don’t have to feed into their fire.  Don’t let someone’s emotions consume you or take yours over.  It’s just not worth it, and not giving a f*#k is completely okay.

FOOD | Tacos at Yxta Cocina Mexicana

Happy weekend lovelies! I don’t know about you, but I’ve had a pretty rough week. It takes a lot to get me angry and I feel like these past couple of weeks people have been on a roll to try to get me past that point of no return! 😈 Ha! 😇

Yesterday I just needed to get away. I was so emotionally drained. So what better way to start the weekend than with happy hour!

My good friend and I hit up Yxta in downtown LA for some well deserved tacos and tequila. I love this place because it’s totally unexpected. The location itself borders skid row and 6th (anyone familiar with the area knows this isn’t somewhere you just go for a casual stroll).  The people that go here are making the trip specifically for the food.  Luckily for me, I’m friends with a foodie that knows all the good places to go.

Since we went specifically for ‘hora feliz’, we indulged in all the menu offerings. Peach margaritas were the special of day and quite tastey with a tajin rim.

Peach Margarita

Dos Gringas is always a crowd favorite – Al pastor tacos on a warm flour tortilla with melted Oaxaca cheese and guacamole salsa.

Dos Gringas

We also tried a calabazita appetizer, the regular tacos al pastor, tacos de carnitas, tastadita de ceviche, and duck taquitos.

Yxta is an indoor/outdoor modern trendy Mexican restaurant offering traditional cuisine with an updated flare. This place offers a great Happy Hour menu Monday –  Friday from 4:00pm – 7:00pm and Saturday from 4:00pm – 6:00pm. The restaurant offers valet for $4 and there is free street parking after 6:00pm.  Make sure to check Yxta’s links for the most up to date information.

Don’t forget to indulge every once and a while. 😉


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Motivation | Why it’s okay to take some time for yourself

It has definitely been quite a while since I’ve posted.  Mainly because I’ve been spending more time experiencing things and not so much documenting them.  My own fault for not being more proactive with my time.  But, I really needed it.

I needed that time alone, to reflect and gather my thoughts, and to really just take some time to work on myself.  We all really need that sometimes.  This past year my life has changed so much.  You never really realize how much change is occurring until you stop and reflect on how much time has actually passed.  Much of the change has definitely been for the better.  I definitely have gathered a lot of interesting stories and some crazy experiences, and I want to make sure to share all of that.

I really feel like I’m in a much different place.  More calm with myself and more accepting of life.  Let me tell you.  No one’s life is easy.  Everyone is drawn a different set of cards.  Some more complicated than others, but different depending on the perspective.  But that’s just how life goes.  And that’s why it’s important for you to take some time for yourself.  It’s easy to fall into a pattern and get stuck in the monotony of things.  You almost forget how to think outside the box because of routine and comfort.  Stepping outside of the norm is what helps ground you back into reality.  It helps you to look at things from a different perspective, a different mindset, maybe a different thought process.

Different is good.  Change is good because it helps you to evolve and grow as an individual.  You need that growth in order to not be stagnant and to not let the gunk of every day cloud your judgement.  You have to be of sound mind and sound thought to make a sound decision, if that makes any sense.

It’s okay to retreate to spend that time healing and working on yourself.   You don’t have to feel guilty about it.  Know that it’s completely healthy and normal, and it’s definitely more than okay.

FASHION | Sexy Summer Lace Inspiration

Hello Lovlies! ❤️ Yay, it’s officially summer!  Hope the heat has been good to you so far. I was having a discussion with a friend the other day on which season was our favorite. I obviously said summer and his response was winter. His argument: “When it’s cold, at least you can put layers on, but when it’s hot, there’s only so much clothes you can take off.” While that’s true, I disagree. I love the summer season for the fact that you get to wear less layers! Don’t get me wrong, I know you can’t be going out in your unmentionables, but it’s fun to show them off sometimes. I think side-boob is a thing right now, but I just can’t do it. So when I want to wear a top that is low-cut on the sides or backless, I usually opt for a lacy bra to give a pop of sexy.

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Lace is usually my material of choice. It’s feminine, elegant, and can be combined with anything.  And when a bit of lace pops out with the movement of your clothes, it can be ever so sexy.  So for the summertime, consider combining lacy pieces that are within the same color palate as your top.  Opt for pieces that are darker shades if you want to make it the highlight of your outfit or lighter shades if you want an elegant understatement.

Sexy Summer Lingerie Flat

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Highlighting the piece gives this outfit an edgier look.

Lace strap

Rose lace design

Sexy Summer Lingerie Flat Lay Roses

Hopefully this flat lay inspires you!  Let me know what you think of this look and if you want to continue to see more posts like these.


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